MY SAD EARLY LIFE WAS BUT A STEPPING STONE TO A HAPPY AND FULFILLING LIFE

I was a five year-old kid, and already a survivor of appalling events. I have never known my father. My mother, having given up on me, placed me in the County Social Services Foster Care System. She was desperate to be rid of me. The saddest, most inexplicable part of this was that she kept my younger brother and older sister. I was devastated knowing I had been deleted from my family. I was now motherless and fatherless. I loved my mother, brother and sister, but my love for them wasn’t enough for her to keep me in the family.
She claimed she could not control me, and that I was a “devil,” but I now know she was the one out of control. I was the child and she was the adult. I am not to blame for the predicament I found myself in. That is life; it is unfair.
There are millions of little kids who have been given up on, and I hold their parents completely responsible. The ignoble actions of parents will always be remembered by their children. I know, because that five year-old foster child still lives within me, constantly striving to be empowered, to make his insecurities my own. But I refuse to be a victim; I am a conqueror. I am stronger than my unworthy parents!
There is no question; the mental and physical struggles of my life have proved very difficult to overcome. They say the first five years of a child’s life are the most critical to his or her development, and that children soak up everything they experience like a sponge. I agree. I have seen my own three children sponge both my strengths and weaknesses. Kids watch their parents, and mimic what they observe. The influence of my first five years contributed to many destructive behaviors throughout my life. I often wished I had been given away at birth, so that I wouldn’t have had to endure the memories and nightmares which have haunted me these many years.
There is always a lesson to be learned from adversity. I have learned many such lessons the hard way, but have found there is a light at the end of the tunnel. The light that leads us out of the darkness is the positive energy that comes to surround those who continually search for what life has to offer. The answer is always within. By harnessing this positive energy you can accomplish anything. Nothing has ever held me back from “going for it.” I have not let anyone or anything stop me from making my dreams a reality. I keep on keeping on. I am an unstoppable force. I am headstrong and know exactly what I want. I have always trusted my intuition.
My search for life’s meaning eventually brought me through a baptism by fire, which cleansed my soul. I am like the mystical “Phoenix” that has risen from its own ashes, a resurrected soul, a lost boy who evolved into a man. In life’s journey, I was meant to shine.
It is this journey in which fractured souls are made whole again. It is this journey in which wounds are healed and pain is finally replaced with love and peace.

Never Give Up On Love

The world is complicated, and people live in this fast moving world. Finding someone is easy, but finding the person you want to love is harder for sure. Every good thing takes time and patience so we can truly appreciate the value of it. Love doesn't need to be rushed nor given up on. Good things come who those who wait. If something right now isn't happening for you, it doesn't mean in the near future it won't. You must be patient for love, and understand that it takes time to find the right person to spend your days with. For now, people should enjoy their freedom and live life as much as they can, but never give up on love because there is somebody out there waiting for you!!:)

The Fern and the Bamboo

One day I decided to quit... I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality...
I wanted to quit my life. I went to the woods to
have one last talk with God.
"God", I said. "Can you give me one good reason not to quit?"
His answer surprised me... ""Look around", He said. "Do you see the fern and the bamboo?"
"Yes", I replied.
"When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I
took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water. The fern quickly grew from the earth. Its brilliant green covered the floor. Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo. In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful. And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo." He said.
"In year three there was still nothing from the
bamboo seed. But I would not quit. In year four,
again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed. I
would not quit." He said.
"Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from
the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant... But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall. It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive. I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle." He said to me.
"Did you know, my child, that all this time you have
been struggling, you have actually been growing roots?"
"I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you."
"Don't compare yourself to others." He said. "The
bamboo had a different purpose than the fern. Yet they both make the forest beautiful."
"Your time will come", God said to me. "You will rise high"
"How high should I rise?" I asked.
"How high will the bamboo rise?" He asked in return.
"As high as it can?" I questioned
"Yes." He said, "Give me glory by rising as high as you can."
I left the forest and bring back this story. I hope these words can help you see that God will never give up on you. He will never give up on you.
Never regret a day in your life.

Good days give you happiness; bad days give you experiences; both are essential to life

NEVER GIVE UP

Never regret giving it your all
Not even if it eventually leads you to a fall.
People can rise from a fall,
But they can never go back to the moment where they should have given it their all.






I've fallen many times in my life, every time i do i pick myself back up and dust off the dirt and go at it again. I'll keep trying things until i get it right.

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A Call from the Dead

I remember seeing myself running in the woods. Don’t know what I’m looking for but I was just following the path. Somewhat or somehow I ended up in some random streets in London. I don’t know if it was really London, but when I saw the Big Ben and overheard people’s conversation, I knew it has to be London, because of their thick accents. I was extremely happy, it was my dream to be London and all of my favorite pop stars are here! Yet it didn’t make sense. How did I, an ordinary girl just came running in the woods and end up in the streets of London?
It was confusing and hard to believe but this is it! I’m in London! Out of the blue, the day got darker. Clouds slipped away from the hands of the night sky, just a little bit of them forming a gate around the full moon. Most of the street light weren’t on, so it got lonely and the road faded in the dark. Cars lessened and it got quiet. It was so empty and I felt cold and didn’t know how to get back because I would get lost in that dark woods. I spotted a bench by the subway, so I sat there hoping for someone to help me get home or mom would definitely get me grounded for days and I really don’t want that happening.
After waiting there for a very long time, no one showed up and my eyes were already giving up on me. I slide back slowly on the bench and as long as I could remember, I was fast asleep. I don’t exactly remember if I was drowning into deep fantasized dreams but everything happened so quickly and it almost felt like I couldn’t catch up with time.
I was awaken by a loud shout for help. I could hear him so near from me; the street is lonely anyway. I got up and looked around and saw a young boy who seem about my age yet tall and thin, being chased by three dark shadows. I couldn’t get to see the chasers but I realized knives in their hands. The boy was like a radiant; he was glowing whereas the other guys are like black shadows simply chasing him. Everything seem very familiar, like I’ve recognize this scenario happening. My feet moved faster and I started chasing after them, wanting to know and remember what will happen.
I ran as fast as I could but everything happened so quickly and I was just too late. That poor boy was kicked hard to the ground and when he tried to get back up; those three black shadows stabbed him all over his body and left him bleeding all by himself. The black shadows then ran off leaving the boy there in pain. Although I’m looking at this happening from a far distant, I can already feel his pain, and almost saw everything in his eyes just in a quick second. I ran towards him, but then the boy vanished. Like “Poof”! I was so dumbfounded and I thought to myself, “What in the world just happened?” That boy who got stabbed seems familiar to me. It feels like I’ve known him in and out. It’s tickling my funny bone in a crazy way yet scares me to a way I can never consider logical. I just witnessed a violent behavior or should I say an attack of a young boy right in front of me, and when I was about to help him out, everything just disappeared?
I closed both my eyes shut for a moment and stood there not doing anything but just stayed in total silence. I took a deep breath and my lungs felt clear for once and exhaled; finally feeling a little calm. The air seems fresh and I felt free. I tried to clear my mind on what I just saw, hoping it was just a terrifying nightmare and pinched myself hard. Well that hurt but as I opened my eyes, I wasn’t in my room or that dark street of London; it was a bright garden. There was an old oak tree with a swing tied up to it and beautiful flowers assisting it. The grass was fresh green and I could not even spot any other than green pigments. There was no sun to be found but the day was bright and I didn’t feel the heat but it was a cold chilly breeze. The strangest thing was that the flowers changed colours every now and then. They even swayed along the breeze while a melodious music is being played.
“Hello there.” I heard someone behind me and I turned to see a tall figure of that same boy. I could see his face clearer now. That beautiful face he has, with freckles and that sweet smile of his made my heart tender for a minute. “Wait, aren’t you the one who got attacked by three whatever you call it was just now?” I asked. “Yeah, I’m Ben. I was sent here to guide you in the way of life.” I couldn’t help myself, so burst out laughing. First he was attacked by a three dark shadows and now I’m here in a beautiful garden trying to find peace or simply wake up; just to find this young man to call him my guide?
He stood there not saying a word but he gave an unexplainable stare that made me wonder. I tried hard on remembering him, his name, face, that voice which I’ve never heard. Something struck my mind and I realized that he’s the Ben I’ve been dying to see. Wanting to know but he died in the age of 16 and it’s too late for me to see him. “Oh God! It’s you, Ben! You’re Brooke’s brother!” I said aloud. He chuckled a little seeing my impression towards him and said, “Yeah and I know you know me well. I’ve been sent to watch everything you’ve been doing. It’s definitely crazy I know but I know you way better than anyone else even though we have not met in person. I’m no God but it’s my task. I’m still learning to know you better but every time; you never failed to surprise me, little one. Right now, you just got to believe that whatever you just saw, felt and whatever that it is, is simply happening and it’s true.” I nodded and felt a tear drop on my cheek. I felt very happy to finally see him in person.
The melodious music was already sinking in the air and I couldn’t hear it anymore. The flowers were just doing the same thing as they were just now but I felt like I was standing far ahead form them. For that moment I was in a distant where I couldn’t touch them and fell their soft petals on my skin.
“Wait. Why did I see you being attacked just now?” I asked being totally clueless. “That’s just a test.” He said leaving me with no further explanations. “A test? What does that supposed to mean?” I asked again. “Some questions are better to be left as questions without the answers. Just watch and learn, you’ll know the answer yourself.” He said and paused before he continued. “You have a gift. Most people fear death but you don’t really do. You wait for it to come as soon as possible. You are very eager to know the afterlife. Wanting to discover the truth beneath and the lies which are right in front of you. Like a death seeker, why?” So it’s his turn to ask me now? Fair enough.
“I don’t really know how to tell you this, but when I read the way you imagined heaven to be, it was simply amazing and I wanted to feel it. I just want to be happy for once and laugh till I die.” I said shortly. “Your read my short story? Wow! Thank you!! But you are happy.” He said. “I’m not. I’m just living this endless steak. Feared for almost everything. I just act it out like I’m brave but I’m just not. It’s like I’m falling down this deep pit and there’s no one to pull me.” I cried.
“Anyways, what is this place? What am I doing here?” I asked almost sounding irritated with this whole surrounding. “Your time has not come yet. Death is not your end. I know how it feels. Been there done that.” He said trying to be casual. “You don’t know how it feels to live like this, Ben. You don’t. Sometimes just only sometimes I wished to die just like you. In vain. I’d wonder if I actually mean it but to be totally sane, I do!” I said being a little sarcastic in my tone.
“I know that, but you need to live. You’ve got destinies to create and complete. You have to do what He has told you to. Now is just not your final. Sometimes, you might feel like you’re not worth to live but you just got to know one thing; Life would actually wonder if it’s worth for you. It’s complicated but you’ll have to solve the puzzle, run in the maze and you just got to strike the match to light it all up.” He said as we ended up walking and reached the end of the woods I left just now. “But how will I ever be happy when I go back? Everything is already falling apart. No one will ever be there and tell me to stay strong, to comfort me and tell that everything will be fine!” I knelt to the ground feeling almost hopeless and to finally give up.
“There will be someone out there for you. Just be patient. You’ve made it this far and I’m proud of how you’re holding on to it. Just wait and see. That person is there but sometimes you don’t see ‘em. I wished to be there for you but I can’t. Remember your quote? ‘Life is like a road trip. You just gotta enjoy it along the way even if it came to an end.’ Well you got it now, so enjoy every part of it. Your end is nowhere near. My journey on the Earth plane is over, now I’ll have to start a new one here. It’s hard to get used to but I know I will soon. Trust me everything will be okay.” He advised.
I cried like a reckless kid hoping not to go back, but he’s right. I’ll have to do it and make through it even if it was the hardest part of life. He held up my wrist which was filled with scars and placed a soft kiss to it and the marks disappeared. I smiled up at him. “Now it’s about time you go back and discover what’s left behind. You’re clean and your sins are forgiven.” He winked and had a cheerful smile plastered on his lips. “How I wish to have a brother like you, Ben.” I smiled almost tearing. “You are my baby sister and that’s why I’ll have to take good care of you. The reason we are here now. There will be a day when you could join me there, in a world I call Paradise!” He widened his hands to the breezy air. “Paradise?” I laughed at him.
“Hey, can I know how I got here? Like did I die or something? Was I in a coma?” I asked. “You didn’t die yet silly; you were called here to come, so I could tell you what you truly need to know. Everything that I should advise you and simply that. You’re one special kid, Ann.” He smiled. “Oh well, that’s weird. So I’m asleep now? It’s just a dream?” I asked. “Do you really ask that much questions? It’s only a dream if you think it is. I told you to believe it, remember?” He said. “Oh, yeah! Got it! Again, why?” I scratched my head. “No more questions, little one! I told you everything that it is and will be. Nothing more.” He crossed both his hands and stayed firm to his reply.
“Thank you.” I hugged him tight and said my last goodbye to him. I ran back following the path in the woods and finally reached my house. The day got darker like just now and I slowly sneaked up to my room and slept. I still have no idea on how or what Heaven or like Ben’s world, Paradise would actually look like but I know it’s definitely beyond my imaginations. Even if I keep hallucinating it, it’ll never be the same. There will be a dash of change every single time.
“Heaven is not a place you’re supposed to be in now, the Earth plane is simply livin’. Your choice depends on your heart and soul but death is something foretold.” –Ben Kinsella

SHE SAID

a call from me .. why did you do it i asked.

its simple,she sad. he has  a car she told me and she then hung up on me

CUTE

"In a mother's womb were two babies. One asked the other: "Do you believe in life after delivery?" The other replies, "why, of course. There has to be something after delivery. Maybe we are here to prepare ourselves for what we will be later. "Nonsense," says the other. "There is no life after delivery. What would that life be?" "I don't know, but there will be more light than here. Maybe we will walk with our legs and eat from our mouths." The other says "This is absurd! Walking is impossible. And eat with our mouths? Ridiculous. The umbilical cord supplies nutrition. Life after delivery is to be excluded. The umbilical cord is too short." "I think there is something and maybe it's different than it is here." the other replies, "No one has ever come back from there. Delivery is the end of life, and in the after-delivery it is nothing but darkness and anxiety and it takes us nowhere." "Well, I don't know," says the other, "but certainly we will see mother and she will take care of us." "Mother??" You believe in mother? Where is she now? "She is all around us. It is in her that we live. Without her there would not be this world." "I don't see her, so it's only logical that she doesn't exist." To which the other replied, "sometimes when you're in silence you can hear her, you can perceive her." I believe there is a reality after delivery and we are here to prepare ourselves for that reality." Well, that's the same about us, we keep asking whether there is LIFE after death....

DID HE

He met you. He got your number. He started talking to you. He got to know you. He became your friend. He started to like you. He loved talking to you. He started to chase you. He wanted to spend time with you. He started missing you. He made you fall. He wanted you. He got it in with you. He became more than a friend. He finally got you. He fell in love with you. He couldn't stopped talking to you. He loved being around you. He started acting different. He seemed more distant. He started to ignore you. He got bored. He stopped showing he cared. He left.

ASK YOURSELF

There was once a businessman who was sitting by the beach in a small Brazilian village. As he sat, he saw a Brazilian fisherman rowing a small boat towards the shore having caught quite few big fish. The businessman was impressed and asked the fisherman, “How long does it take you to catch so many fish?” The fisherman replied, “Oh, just a short while.” “Then why don’t you stay longer at sea and catch even more?” The businessman was astonished. “This is enough to feed my whole family,” the fisherman said. The businessman then asked, “So, what do you do for the rest of the day?” The fisherman replied, “Well, I usually wake up early in the morning, go out to sea and catch a few fish, then go back and play with my kids. In the afternoon, I take a nap with my wife, and evening comes, I join my buddies in the village for a drink — we play guitar, sing and dance throughout the night.” The businessman offered a suggestion to the fisherman. “I am a PhD in business management. I could help you to become a more successful person. From now on, you should spend more time at sea and try to catch as many fish as possible. When you have saved enough money, you could buy a bigger boat and catch even more fish. Soon you will be able to afford to buy more boats, set up your own company, your own production plant for canned food and distribution network. By then, you will have moved out of this village and to Sao Paulo, where you can set up HQ to manage your other branches.” The fisherman continues, “And after that?” The businessman laughs heartily, “After that, you can live like a king in your own house, and when the time is right, you can go public and float your shares in the Stock Exchange, and you will be rich.” The fisherman asks, “And after that?” The businessman says, “After that, you can finally retire, you can move to a house by the fishing village, wake up early in the morning, catch a few fish, then return home to play with kids, have a nice afternoon nap with your wife, and when evening comes, you can join your buddies for a drink, play the guitar, sing and dance throughout the night!” The fisherman was puzzled, “Isn’t that what I am doing now?”

DOWNS AND UPS

I reached the end of my rope one day and finally said, “Enough is enough! I’ve had it with your lies, violence and manipulation, so get out! This relationship is OVER!” So even though we had grown up together and shared some good laughs over the years, it felt REALLY good to finally walk away from that abusive relationship. The newfound freedom gave me an opportunity to grow as an individual, do some soul- searching, read books, and spend a lot more time outdoors. The first few weeks apart were pretty difficult, I have to admit. I really missed the routine of coming home to that familiar embrace (because we humans are comforted by routine, even if it’s dysfunctional). But now that it’s been more than ten years since we last saw one another, I can honestly say that I don’t miss my TV at all. It’s true that not EVERYTHING on television is negative, bad, violent or filled with mind-numbing commercials, but I personally had to cut it out altogether in order to end the addiction. Did I miss out on some amazing footage, lessons and research shared on the Discovery Channel, for example? Absolutely! But I certainly didn’t miss waking up to bad news or going to bed with even worse news, that’s for sure! I did my own research instead, at my own pace, on my own schedule, with no commercial interruption. The only change I initially noticed was that I couldn’t join the conversation with co-workers standing around the water cooler at the office anymore, but after a decade without TV I noticed a significantly more remarkable change: all of my thoughts were my own. I wasn’t being told what to think, what to buy, like, eat or watch; I was making my own decisions. I wonder if not being exposed to media is part of why I’m so happy all the time. I mean, I didn’t just cut out TV; I went all out and eliminated newspapers, radio, and magazines too! In a book called Meditation, Eknath Easwaran explains how we don’t just eat with our mouths; we eat with our eyes and ears too. So if we watch or listen to poisonous negativity, violence, gossip, and pretty much anything that is not conducive to our growth or maturity as adults, then it’s no different than eating only refined sugars, fried foods and saturated fats; we’re bound to get sick. That sickness, however, takes the form of fear, paranoia, anxiety, greed, insecurity, a lack of trust in our fellow brothers and sisters, and discontentment with life altogether. Yuck! Luckily for us, as is the case with most ailments, prevention is the best cure! Start paying attention to how much of what you watch is filling you with fear, anger or anxiety, versus how much of what you read or expose yourself to is about unconditional love, gratitude, trust, respect, and the divinity within all beings (including yourself). As Carlos Castaneda said, “We can make ourselves miserable, or we can make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same.” So go ahead and choose to be happy by taking the first step of avoiding the very things that make you UNhappy. It certainly helped me! More chapters like this are in Buddhist Boot Camp. Enjoy! Credit: Buddhist Bootcamp

LIFE STORY

Very much, you are the writer of your life story. You are creating a symphony, using your own music for the flow. Close, your eyes and hear, your life flow as you write the symphony. Your life is a play and you, its author and director; make it just as great as you want it to be. Make it have the beginning, the middle, and the end that you choose for it to have. Rewrite it over and over until it is the life, you want it to be. You have all the power to be anything or everything you ever dreamed you could be. If you have been a victim, you have only been a victim of your own, wrong thinking. No one can touch you, unless you have given over to me your powers. But that is just another part of this great information, that I have to share with you on how to be happy, and live the greatest life that anyone could ever live. But go back to the first part, and just learn to be happy right now with what you have no matter how little it may be, be grateful, that you have what you do have, be happy that you are how and who you are right now. Don't stop growing grow everyday, and move forward even if it is only an inch or so. You don't need to find your happiness, its already waiting on you; and all you have to do, is be happy now. Smile, that is the first thing, smile all that you can, all the time. But know that not everyday, will be great, but for a reason as God puts it. You must know pain and suffering, to know when you are no longer experiencing it.

Fruit of the Poisoned Tree”

. . . I was angry with my friend: I told my wrath, my wrath did end. I was angry with my foe: I told it not, my wrath did grow. And I watered it in fears, Night and morning with my tears; And I sunned it with smiles, And with soft deceitful wiles. And it grew both day and night, Till it bore an apple bright. And my foe beheld it shine. And he knew that it was mine, And into my garden stole When the night had veiled the pole; In the morning glad I see My foe outstretched beneath the tree.

***Can You Choose To Trust the Universe?

Can you trust that things will work out even when there's not much to prove that they will do? Can you trust that the path you are on right now, will lead you to the very life that gives you multiple lifegasmic experiences aka orgasms from satisfaction in life? Whatever the course you are on right now? Can you trust the Universe with that course and not doubt it at all? I have to confess I have tons of faith and self-confidence, however even though this is so, there are my moments when I doubt everything. Moments when self-doubt shoots through and I am like; "Is this going to work out?", "Will this business turn out perfect?", "Will this relationship lead to something great?" But in those moments, I have learned to trust the Universe. Now you can refer to the Universe by any name you wish, call it Karma, God, Allah, Lord Shiva whatever, the name you give it doesn't matter as much as the belief in that name. Years back, three years to be precise, I made a humble decision of choosing to trust the universe. I chose to create a trusting relationship with my reality. On the objective side, I'm never going to know and understand the true nature of reality. It's way too complex for my puny human brain to figure out. I don't even have direct access to that real outer reality. I can only think with my own internal mental model of it -- whatever my brain has currently mapped into its neural network. And my mental map is surely filled with flaws and inaccuracies. So in that case, I have three options: to remain in doubt, to trust, or to distrust. Again I considered all the options and felt that even if the universe was in fact cold and indifferent... or perhaps even out to get me, trusting it was still the best option. By choosing to trust the universe, it pushes me to take more risks, to stretch myself, and to learn from mistakes and setbacks. I felt this would lead to a more interesting life than the alternatives, which discourage action and exploration. In the end it came down to a decision about what kind of life I want to live. I felt I would live the best life if I believed I lived in a world that I could trust, a world that existed to teach me, train me, give me lessons, bring me wonderful experiences, enable me to love and feel loved, and so on. I don't, however, trust the universe to be nice to me, to go easy on me, to always be my friend. I trust it on a much deeper level. I trust it to bring me challenges, to push me to grow even when I resist that pushing, and to be the coach I need in training up my consciousness. I trust the universe to put me on a path of greater alignment with truth, love, and power. So far I feel that trust has not been misplaced. So I want to ask you something? Will you trust the Universe even when it doesn't work out as you thought? Will you trust the Universe when the person you loved so much wakes up and calls it quits? Will you trust the Universe when you get fired from a job you struggled to get? Will you just trust that whatever the Universe brings you is a lifegasmic experience for you to devour even when it seems bad? I am choosing to trust the Universe, to bring me the friends that resonate with me and to carefully weed out those that don't? I am trusting the Universe to begin any business it asks me to begin? I am trusting the Universe to love any person it asks me to love and not to put pressure on myself whether it works out or not.

DIFFERENCES

It seems like guys are always nice at first, aren't they? They say hi, they talk to you with respect, they're real smooth with their words, they seem like gentlemen, right? Then as you get to know them a little better, they get more comfortable with you and they start to show you their funny side, they start to show you their emotional side, they start to show you their weird side, they seem so genuine, right? Then as you get to know them even better, they start to show you their clingy side, they start to show you their insecure side, they start to show you their needy side, they seem so dependent on you, right? Then as you get to know them even further, they start to show you their serious side, they start to show you their angry side, they start to show you their controlling side, they seem so crazy, right? Now, at this point, they're treating you like crap and you're thinking "What happened to the guy I first met?"

**How to Hack Your Subconscious And Achieve Faster Results In Life

 I can comfortably state, I am one of those people with an amazing typing speed. Yet I didn't realize my typing speed had come of age until months down the road when I began doing the very thing that used to amaze me years back. When I was young, I would stand in awe at my father's typing speed, he seemed to just focus on the computer screen and then his hands would just type out anything he desired. I could not imagine that a normal person could know the location of the letters of the keyboard just automatically, but time forward, I am doing the same thing. It's a phenomenon I have attributed to muscle memory and the Subconscious. If you observe your life keenly, you will find many things for which the subconscious is now responsible. For example, if you train your body to wake up at a specific time every day for some good time, after some time, the subconscious registers this fact and even when you sleep so late, you will be awake at that specific time. Even when you have no alarm, you automatically wake up at that time. The same thing happens, when one is first learning how to drive a manual car, they are doing the process of changing gears on the conscious level but after a long period of doing this, their hands begin shifting the gears automatically, once again the subconscious comes at play. In my own life, my subconscious has learned that I must have a handkerchief in my side pocket and my wallet at the back pocket before I leave home. Have you noticed that for some people, they just can't keep money, even when it's too much, they will find a way to blow it all up within days. It's just wired in them, they just can't control it, or actually they don't realize it. So the question is; is it possible to hack your subconscious for better results in your life? Could it be that the reason some things are not changing in your life is because the subconscious has not yet registered them well enough. And could it be that you have to change some things from your subconscious before your life can improve? One of the other ways I use the subconscious is when I am trying to solve a pressing problem. I realize that in those moments when my logic is failing to figure out a quick solution, the best thing to do, is to ignore the problem, relax off and before I know it, minutes later, a solution pops out of nowhere. Now it's that nowhere once again that I attribute to the Subconscious. The subconscious works 24-7, it becomes more dominant when you sleep, it's responsible for your dreams and physical processes like breathing, walking, that's why even when it's dark, you will comfortably find your mouth, yet if this process was to be performed by the conscious, it's practically impossible to find your mouth in the dark. I have also noticed that the most creative and innovative people that have graced this world always move with two things wherever they go. That's a pen and a small journal. Steve Jobs never let go of these two items, and he went ahead to grow Apple to the most successful brand in the world. Bill Gates of Microsoft, Ortega Amancio, the 3rd richest man and owner of Zara, not forgetting Richard Branson of Virgin Group. You see, most of the best ideas to transform our lives come in those moments where we least expect them, thus the need to have a piece of paper to note down whatever idea hits you. It may be an idea on which person to contact etc. Here's how the Subconscious is already at work in your life: 1. Did you ever get poking feeling that some one is watching you? Whether you are in taxi, sitting in office and doing your job ? You feel suddenly uncomfortable and feel that some one is watching you. Just look around slowly.. you will realize some one just lowered his head on seeing you. 2. Did your phone ever ring and even before checking whose calling, you predict the person with accuracy? 3. Have you ever predicted the time of the day to full accuracy as far as the hour and the minutes are concerned? I did this a couple of times and my friend never believed it, he thought I had an imaginary watch. 4. Before you go to sleep - when you are in a fix about some issue - try to forget it - you get more solutions, more ideas to solve that issue. Do not sleep, do not get up, try still to forget it - you get more and more ideas. 5. Finally just to notice this, try to focus at someone for some good time, let's say you are seated in a lecture room. It's best it you look at them from behind, when they're seated at the front. Concentrate on her or him. After a few minutes - he or she will start looking around and then look at you. You change your look to a different person once you met his eyes. After few seconds / minutes - he or she will look at you again. So if you can teach your Subconscious something, then it will cease to be hard-work. You will begin to do things effortlessly but for that to happen, you have to use your conscious mind. Let's say you want to learn how to type faster and accurately, you use your conscious mind to decide that everyday you will type at least 2000 words for 30 consecutive days, I can guarantee your typing speed will more than triple. If you want to attract more friends in your life, you just use your conscious to make 2 new friends every day for 30 days and after the 30 days, your subconscious will automatically begin to make the 2 new friends for you without you having to do a lot of work. In summary, your Conscious feeds your Subconscious. The Conscious is the gate-way yet the Subconscious is the actual place where everything you are experiencing in your life takesplace. That's why someone may have all the conscious ability to make money but if his subconscious is not wired to keep this money, it will keep finding itself out of his life. I think you've heard of people who make a lot of money, but it keeps slipping through their pockets. He earns a big salary but he's ever broke. His subconscious is wired into the state of being broke, no matter how much more he earns, he will continue to be broke. The Subconscious controls 80% of your life. The Conscious only controls 20% of your life. So I am so certain, that the rich men, have wired their subconscious for making money. One time I overheard Patrick Bitature saying; "Making money is my hobby, I would get bored if I wasn't making money." So I am so certain, after sometime, making money begins to happen on the subconscious level, you just can't explain it to a person who is making money at the conscious level. So the bottom line is; "Train your conscious hard enough, with focus and persistence such that the Subconscious can register and get this training and implement it effortlessly, automatically." The subconscious is actually the same voice that tells you, "don't lend that person money, he won't pay back and true to that, you lend the person money and they never pay back." But it's more than just intuition, it's ultimate infinite intelligence in every area of your life. I also wish to state that I don't fully understand the subconscious but the little I know about it, has transformed my life at a speed I would have never imagined.

MISSING YOU

Missing someone gets easier everyday because even though you are one day further from the last time you saw them, you are one day closer to the next time you will Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It's for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It's for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don't see it nearly enough If ever there is tomorrow when we're not together. There is something you must always remember. You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we're apart... I'll always be with you.

stress

A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face she inquired, “How heavy is this glass of water?” The answers called out ranged from 230 to 560 Grams. “The absolute weight doesn't matter, She replied.... It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn't change, but the longer i hold it, the heavier it becomes.” Moral: The stress and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them for a big longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything. Always remember to put the glass down.