stress

A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face she inquired, “How heavy is this glass of water?” The answers called out ranged from 230 to 560 Grams. “The absolute weight doesn't matter, She replied.... It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn't change, but the longer i hold it, the heavier it becomes.” Moral: The stress and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them for a big longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything. Always remember to put the glass down.

inspirational story

Two years ago on a sunny Wednesday morning ,the devil went to God to accuse me.He told God that the reason I worshipped him faithfully was because he had blessed me with good health ,and wealth, and that if he were to take those things away ,I would loose my faith .To prove his case he asked God for permission to test me.Permission was granted and by noon that day my life turned upside down.I found out I had stage 3 throat cancer and if untreated ,I had approximately 6 to 8 months to live.I started to undergo aggressive treatment that left me unable to work so inevitably my finances were affected .Inspite of my affliction I still kept my eyes and arms raised to heaven.I guess the devil forgot that when one is faced with death ,material possessions mean nothing, and so his efforts had the opposite effects on me.I understood a long time ago that the power of life and death belongs to God ,and although I asked for time to at least see my boys grow into young adults ,I knew that if God wanted to take me ,then he would make provisions for my husband to raise them on his own. So with the time that I thought I had left,I decided I would look for the silver lining in each dark cloud that hovered over my life.When the medical bills started piling ,instead of stressing, I took the opportunity to financially stream line my life.Yes there was a lot of cutting back ,but I realized very quickly that I didn't need a lot of the material things that I had.I was still the same person wether I drove a Mercedes or a Honda.The cancer was still inside me wether I wore a four hundred dollar pair of jeans ,or twenty dollar jeans.I realized that my children don't care if they ate at a fancy restaurant or if we had a sandwich picnic at the park- they just want to spend quality time with me.I basically cleaned house inside out and completely changed my priorities and frankly ,my life now is far less burdened and much happier because when someone tells you that you have only six months to live ,a lot of things just don't matter period.After my first surgery I lost the ability to speak for six weeks ,and I still loose my voice every now and then to this day, due to the effects of treatment - but its all good.I need to let y'all know that talking is overrated.It is such a blessing not to be able to talk sometimes. If you are seeking insight and direction ,take time to just be silent. God is always giving us direction,but we don't always know it because we are busy talking.It was in those six weeks for example that I found the courage to write the book that many of you have now read.A book that helped me close a chapter on a traumatic childhood and move on with my life. last week I lost my voice again and I used it as an opportunity for serious meditation ,and to seek direction ,because It has been difficult these last few months and I was inspired once more to keep moving forward.Inspite of what I am going through health wise,I am still in the game and will continue to be until I take my last breath.You can look at calamity as the thing that makes you ,or he thing that breaks you.I know that the devil will not stop his assaults on my life for as long as I live ,but I just want him to know he is wasting his time.He has absolutely nothing that I need because it is in God that I move and breath and have my being.-L.B Kelle

YES YOU ARE!!!!!

“Your are beautiful just the way you are!! Firstly I want you to smile at yourself, because your beautiful! Let nothing, I mean nothing, nobody no oppinion tell you any different. The thing I learnt about life is that most people are going to see your flaws and not your beauty. Its sad but its true. You going to be imperfect to most, but you will always be perfect for the heart that God has for you. You have to understand that there’s going to be somebody, somewhere, at sometime, that’s going to find something wrong with you. But the something wrong that they find is nothing but the something right for the heart that is searching for you. You might be too big or too small in their eyes, but you are the perfect size to the heart that’s meant to love you. You might be too outgoing or too shy in their eyes, but guess what you have the perfect personality to the heart that is meant to love you. You might be too black, too white or too brown in their eyes, but you the perfect colour for the heart that’s meant to love you. The first step to being unhappy in life, I learnt this a long time ago!! The first step to being unhappy in life is trying to please everybody else. People are different, have different tastes. But never let those differences make you insecure about who you are. I want you to stop spending so much time in the mirror judging yourself! Critiquing yourself! Bashing yourself! and I want you to start spending the rest of your days, LOVING and appreciating yourself. Your beautiful because God’s says so! And that’s all the confirmation you need!! I have said this before and I will say it again! There will always be something about you that’s not right, to a person who is not right for you. Your flaws are perfect for the heart that’s meant to love you! I will say it again! Your flaws are perfect for the heart that is meant to love you! Find someone who accepts you for you! Never forget that! I want you to stay beautiful and start practising that smile!”

THINK POSITIVELY

1. Let go of perfection. If each day you are running toward perfection, you are running toward failure. Instead, just try your best and feel good about it. 2. Deal with it. Don’t ignore it because it’s tough to deal with. Deal with the issue first, as the issues you find difficult are the most empowering when conquered. 3. Realize that everything stems from your thinking. Your thinking generates emotions. Emotions generate actions. Think positive and live positive. 4. Do something fun each day. Do something every day that will energize you , whether it’s dancing to music with no care in the world, running in the rain, or seeing friends and having a blast. Whatever it is, just do something that makes you feel alive. 5. Don’t procrastinate. If you feel it, just go with it. The more you procrastinate, the more you are digging a hole of confusion. 6. Make a list of things you want to achieve that will make you feel happy and alive. For me, the first thing was to share my story on Tiny Buddha. For years, I’ve read amazing stories from people who have inspired me, and I always wanted to share mine, but could not find anything positive to write. That has changed now, and here I am. 7. Build a network of like- minded positive people. We are who we spend most of our time with. If we have a network of positive friends, that will help us to live with positivity. 8. Just breathe. When things seem tough or confusing, take a few seconds out. Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, and remember the powerful you who can deal with anything. 9. Repeatedly ask yourself, “What is the worst that could happen? ” Put things in perspective when you’re paralyzing yourself with fear, and then you will realize you can handle whatever is coming. 10. Be grateful. Stop thinking about what you don’t have. Instead, be grateful for what you have. This time will never come again, so live it and love it.

SURPRISE!!!!1

One day all the employees reached the office and they saw a big advice on the door on which it was written: "Yesterday the person who has been hindering your growth in this company passed away. We invite you to join the funeral in the room that has been prepared in the gym" In the beginning, they all got sad for the death of one of their colleagues, but after a while they started getting curious to know who was that man who hindered the growth of his colleagues and the company itself. The excitement in the gym was such that security agents were ordered to control the crowd within the room. The more people reached the coffin, the more the excitement heated up. Everyone thought: "Who is this guy who was hindering my progress? Well, at least he died!" One by one the thrilled employees got closer to the coffin, and when they looked inside it they suddenly became speechless. They stood nearby the coffin, shocked and in silence, as if someone had touched the deepest part of their soul. There was a mirror inside the coffin: everyone who looked inside it could see himself. There was also a sign next to the mirror that said: There is only one person who is capable to set limits to your growth: IT IS YOU. You are the only person who can revolutionize your life. You are the only person who can influence your happiness, your realization and your success. You are the only person who can help yourself. Your life does not change when your boss changes, when your friends change, when your parents change, when your partner changes, when your company changes. Your life changes when YOU change, when you go beyond your limiting beliefs, when you realize that you are the only one responsible for your life. The most important relationship you can have, is the one you have with yourself. Examine yourself, watch yourself. Don't be afraid of difficulties, impossibilities and losses: be a winner, build yourself and your reality. The world is like a mirror: it gives back to anyone the reflection of the thoughts in which one has strongly believed. The world and your reality are like mirrors laying in a coffin, which show to any individual the death of his divine capability to imagine and create his happiness and his success.

Faith

Ever wondered of giving up something which you dearly love? Hoping to go  to some other place and coming back ,and finding it right where you left it?it hurts ,i know . So why leave?
All these questions rotate around faith.. that something which we would literally cling on.part of humanity right? But what interests me the most that the faith we have always relates to religion .around the corner,for instance i could here a man utter words that made me conclude that."God willing i will find you here",he told some one i generally took to be his relative or maybe friend.
Generally what am trying to say is that each time you think your being hurt by someone by staying next to  them.. leave .hopfully if you dont get that person back or if that person doesnot realise you that much . You would probably find someone special . Faith comes in.

Three Must Dos In Our Twenties

Our twenties define our whole life, how we turn out to be, and who we actually end up with. The battle of life is fought in our twenties, because we are most creative, most ambitious and most energetic during these moments. We all need some clear guide on those things to do in our twenties without fail. 1. Distort Reality I can’t claim to be responsible for this phenomenon; I credit Steve Jobs for introducing the Reality distortion field which meant that Steve Jobs could convince you of doing things you previously thought were impossible. And as this great man said, “Our twenties is our prime chance to make a dent in the universe.” In our twenties, we have the ability to bend reality to match our dreams. Our twenties are not about being realistic, they are about dreaming and making the dreams come true. 2. Take Risks, Make Mistakes We all grow up being programmed to think that mistakes are actually bad. Mistakes however are life’s single invention to growing faster. If I were to begin over, I would give myself permission to make mistakes and enjoy the whole process. Because we fear mistakes, we never leave our comfort zones, we always hang around the harbor never letting our ship go off to discover new worlds, and certainly, this is why most people come to the end of their lives and feel like there is no legacy they have left. Late American Jazz Pianist and Composer, Dave Brubeck brings it out best; “There's a way of playing safe, there's a way of using tricks and there's the way I like to play which is dangerously where you're going to take a chance on making mistakes in order to create something you haven't created before.” I am certain is that the day I stop making mistakes is the day I will stop living, the day we stop taking risks will be the end of inventions in this world. Real death happens when we stop taking risks and making mistakes, our twenties are not a time to stop doing this. 3. Trying to Roof Before Building Foundations East Africa’s richest man, Baba Sudhir Ruparelia echoed this when he talked of people trying to live a largesse life of before they have earned it. Our twenties are not a moment of showing people we’ve reached; they are a moment of grinding, working hard and securing the dreams we had as we started off. I think, our twenties more than any period in our life define the rest of our lives, it’s a time of work hard and play hard, it’s when you get to actually make the world your oyster. Yes, the twenties are about dreaming big, but they also involve getting these dreams turned into reality. Personally, I think, ones twenties provide perspective on what they really want their thirties to look like basing on the things they take as priorities.